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Science behind regrets (Dr KK Aggarwal)

By Dr K K Aggarwal
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In a US–based study, dying people were asked about their regrets, if any. The top five regrets were: 1. I wish I had the courage to live a life I wanted to live and not what others expected me to live. 2. I wish I had worked harder. 3. I wish I had the courage to express my feelings. 4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends. 5. I wish I had let myself be happier. Regrets are always based on suppression of emotions or non–fulfillment of desires and needs. These need-based desires can be at the level of physical body, mind, intellect, ego or the soul. Therefore, regrets can be at any of these levels. I did a survey of 15 of my patients and asked them a simple question that if they come to know that they are going to die in next 24 hours, what would be their biggest regret. Only one of them, a doctor said that she would have no regrets. Only one person expressed a physical regret and that was from a Yoga expert who said that her regret was not getting married till that day. Mental regrets were two. 1. A state trading businessman said, “I wish I could have taken care of my parents.” 2. A homeopathic doctor said, “I wish I could have given more time to my family.” Intellectual regrets were three. 1. A lawyer said, “I wish I could have become something in life.” 2. A businessman said, “I wish I could have helped more people.” 3. A retired revenue inspector said, “I wish I had married off my younger child.” Egoistic regrets were two. 1. One fashion designer said, “I wish I could have become a singer.” 2. A housewife said, “I wish I could have become a dietician.” Spiritual regrets were six. 1. A Consultant Government Liaison officer said, “I wish I could have made my family members happy.” 2. A businessman said, “I wish I could have meditated more.” 3. A Homeopathic doctor said, “I wish I could have spent more time with my family.” 4. A reception executive said, “I wish I could have spent more time with my parents.” 5. An entertainment CEO said, “I wish I could have taken my parents for a pilgrimage.” 6. A fashion designer said, “I wish I could have worked more for the animals.” In a very popular and successful movie, Kal Ho Na Ho, the hero was to die in the next 40 days. When asked to remember the days of his life, he could not remember 20 ecstatic instances in life. This is what happens with each one of us where we waste all our days and cannot remember more than 50 or even 20 of such instances. If we are given 40 days to live and if we live every day ecstatically, we can get inner happiness. Therefore, we should learn to live in the present instead of having a habit of postponing everything we do. We should learn to prioritize our work and do difficult work first or else we would be in a state of constant worry till that work is over. I teach my patients that they should practice confession exercise and one confession is to talk about your regrets and take them as challenge and finish before the next Tuesday. When working, there are three things which are to be remembered – passion, profession and fashion. Profession is at the level of mind, ego and spirit. We should convert our profession in such a manner that it is fashionable and passionate. Passion means working from the heart and profession means working from mind and intellect and fashion means working the same at the level of ego which is based on show–off. Disclaimer: The views expressed in this write up are entirely my own

Music As A Drug

By Dr K K Aggarwal
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Our body is the largest pharmaceutical group in the world and has the capacity to heal each and every disease. The very fact that there is a receptor for every drug in the body, the body has the capacity to produce that drug. Music is one such modality which can heal by initiating various chains of chemical reactions in the body.

1. Chanting vowels produces interleukin 2 in the body which works like a pain-killer
2. Chanting nasal consonants produces tranquilizers in the body.
3. Sounds like LUM are associated with fear, VUM with attachments, RUM with doubt, YUM with love, HUM with truthfulness and AUM with non-judgmental.
4. In music various chemical can be produced in the body via chanting various vowels and consents.
5. Nasal consonants are vibrant sounds and produce vibrations of the autonomic plexus causing balance between sympathetic and parasympathetic states. More the nasal consonants in music more will be its relaxing healing power. 6. Listening to overtone chanting in music can also heal people in the vicinity of the music.
7. Recitation of music can also increase or decrease the respiratory rate of the singer. Any lyric which reduces respiratory rates will lead to parasympathetic healing activity. The respiratory rate of a listener can also increase and decrease if he is absorbed in the song.
8. Listening to a song word by word by understanding its meaning can also change the biochemistry of the listener. A song can create an excitement or a feeling of depression.
9. Song can also work like intent by speaking in the form of prayers. Group prayers can have powerful affects and convert intent into reality through the concept of spontaneous fulfillment of desire.
10. Music is often linked with dance both classical and western which provides additional healing.
11. Gestures, mudras, bhavs and emotions associated with song produce parasympathetic state in both the singer and the listener.

As a living body we like to hug, kiss, touch and feel. But what happens when the person is dead. We do not like to touch it. If we do so also, we go and wash our hands and take a bath. We do not want to transport a dead body it back home in our own car; instead, we hire a harsh van. From hospital also, many do not want to take the body back home but prefer to keep it in the mortuary till it is taken to the cremation ground. Why this discrimination? Both weigh similar. The difference is the presence and absence of Brahman, the consciousness or the soul.

 Soul exists is the main gist of Upanishads. According to Sri Sankaracharya, one can sum up the entire message of Vedanta in three crisp aphorisms. ‘Brahma Satyam, Jagat Mithya, and Jivo Brahmaiva Naparah’.

 Brahma Satyam:

Brahman is the all-pervasive life principle, life force, or the pure consciousness. It is not the conditioned consciousness, which manifests at the level of brain and is under the influence of mind intellect and ego.

 It is the undisturbed state of consciousness which exists beyond time and space and is the silence between the thoughts.

 Consciousness is the ultimate truth, the timeless and transcendental reality. It exists first, and then matter follows after.

 If one look at matter one finds that the atoms, the electron, proton, etc. are perfectly created and organized. This can only happen if there was some intelligence working. That which exist before and has brought about such an orderly and beautiful creation, has to be a conscious entity. Consciousness alone has to be the first and eternal reality. Rest including the matter is created and is thus perishable.

 In Brahma Satyam, Brahman means consciousness and the word ‘Satya’ means that “which exists in all the three periods of time; – past, present and future and that which transcends time, and is thus timeless”.

 Jagat Mithya:

The word Jagat signifies the entire world, the cosmos, all ‘objects’ of our knowledge, includes both gross and subtle ‘objects’, the thoughts, emotions, the energy.

 That which is near or far, inside or outside, now or later, good or bad, everything is part of this Jagat.

 It is defined as ‘Jayate gachati iti Jagat’, i.e. ‘that which is born and dies is Jagat’. Birth and death are movements in time and that which is in time constantly changes.

 “Mithya” is that which is not present there in all three periods of time or ‘that which had a birth at a particular time and that which will certainly die at some point of time’.

 ‘Jagat Mithya’ thus implies that all what is there for experience is transient.

 Jivo Brahmaiva Naparah:

This sutra means that ‘every jiva – the apparent limited and finite entity – is basically the infinite and limitless Brahman and nothing else. Every Jiva is basically God himself with its limited identity.

 As a living body we like to hug, kiss, touch and feel. But what happens when the person is dead. We do not like to touch it. If we do so also, we go and wash our hands and take a bath. We do not want to transport a dead body back home in our own car; instead, we hire a harsh van. From hospital also, many do not want to take the body back home but prefer to keep it in the mortuary till it is taken to the cremation ground. Why this discrimination? Both weigh similar. The difference is the presence and absence of Brahman, the consciousness or the soul.

Soul exists is the main gist of Upanishads. According to Sri Sankaracharya, one can sum up the entire message of Vedanta in three crisp aphorisms ‘Brahma Satyam, Jagat Mithya, and Jivo Brahmaiva Naparah’.

These are the three terms described in Bhagavad Gita and Vedic literature. Tyaga is at the level of physical body, Vairagya at the level of mind and Sanyasa at the level of the soul. For example, one can do Tyaga of house, food and wife etc.

Vairagya is at the level of desires and one need to get rid of desires. A person may leave the smoking (Tyaga) but unless his desire for smoking goes away there will be no Vairagya. Read more