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Dr K K Aggarwal

Try to get what you like and try to like what you get

By Dr K K Aggarwal
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Most people get frustrated when they do not get what they desire. The frustration can manifest as anger jealousy or irritation which can ultimately cause much more damage to the person. The law of nature is that you get what you deserve and not what you desire. Each action has a karmic expression which ultimately leads to a result which can be desirable or undesirable. Each action therefore invariably ends into either a feeling of pleasure or pain. And the one which ends with pleasure creates more desire and attachment further leading to frustration. What you are depends on your past karmic expression and what you will be in future will depend on your present karmic actions. For every action there is an opposite and equal reaction which is the natural law of karma. According to Vedanta scriptures every karmic debt has to be paid sooner or later. Every result should be accepted as a gift of the nature or the gift of God. One should not get excited nor tainted with results. According to Bhagavad Gita one should be attached to the actions but detached from their results. Once you have controlled your mind and won over the duality of pleasure and pain you attain internal happiness and the realization of your true Self. Every karmic expression should be accepted as a message from the God the results of which may be evident later. Any bad experiences with your present karma need not necessarily mean that it is a result of your bad past karma or is a repayment of the past debt. It may also be taken as an experience to prevent occurrence of the same in future and also an opportunity to teach others through your own experience so that they can prevent themselves from getting into such a bad experience. The more you give the more you get is another law of nature. If you want others to love you you will also have to learn to love others. The bad karmic actions done today can only give you a momentary pleasure but in long run you will be a loser. One should be content with what one gets both in terms of one s profession as well as day to day life. Contentment is the key to self happiness. However this does not means that one should not have any desire and one should leave everything to destiny. With continuous effort and repeated attempts one can change one s destiny. Fulfillment of desires should also obey the laws of nature. Substantial fulfillment of desires is a supernatural power. People who are committed or self realized attain these powers happenings and experience substantial effortless fulfillment of any desire. But even if one achieves that one should not get attached to it. Fulfillment of desires should be seen as any ordinary karmic action and one should learn to detach oneself from the result of such an action. Disclaimer The views expressed in this write up are my own .

Should doctors detach themselves?

By Dr K K Aggarwal
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In dealing with patients, the traditional Patient–Doctor relationship model has been that doctor should remain cool, calm and collected at all times. The doctor’s approach needs to be strictly scientific, logical, objective, methodical precise and dispassionate. This has been the model since the era of William Osler, the father of modern medicine. The term used is imperturbability, which means coolness and presence of mind under all circumstances. Osler said a rare and precious gift to doctor is right of detachment. The right of detachment insulates doctors and protects them from powerful emotions that patients display in their presence like anger, frustration, grief, rage and bewilderment. It also insulates patients from the rolling emotions that doctors may at times feel towards them. However, a detached attitude also insulates doctors from empathizing with patients. A detached doctor may talk in a language that is over patient’s head. Detachment is not like a light switch that you can turn on and off to suit the situation. Detachment as a practice cannot be in isolation if it becomes your personal style of distracting from the world, it may not be just for the patients but also from your colleague, family friends and even yourself. I recall when I joined by hospital, the first lesson given to me by my boss was not to get unduly attached with patients. As part of etiquettes, we were taught not to socialize with patients. Even today the new American Guidelines talk that doctors should not socialize with their patients on social media including Facebook. Even doctors are human beings and their personal life should not be known to the patients. As far as lawsuits are concerned, it is equally true that known patients file a lawsuit much more than unknown people because over a period of time they know your weakness. One should learn to empathize with the patients and yet be detached from its results. Doctors who follow Bhagawad Gita understand this concept very well.